Friday Unrelated Information
1. We’ve made it through the first week of isolation. Every day is an emotional roller coaster for me, but it’s hard to have every routine totally upset. I, um, punched my punching bag off its hanger yesterday morning so, you know, we’re working through all the feelings as best we can.
As you are present with how you are feeling, allowing yourself to experience the slower pace, more stillness, you are prepping the soil. As you tune into what feels like the next best step for you, for your family you begin planting seeds to heal the shock of rapid change and gently rebuild trust in the power of creation.
3. Do you need something to read? Libraries are closed but you can still get ebooks and audiobooks sent to your phone or Kindle. Here’s a list of recommendations–they all looked good.
4. Do you need some opera in your life? (Who doesn’t?) The Met is live streaming an opera every night for the foreseeable future. Sunday night is Onegin with Hvorostovsky!
1. I got the OK to start working from home yesterday, my state seems to be taking things seriously and canceling lots of events, and I went to therapy last night–so I’m feeling better all around. My therapist’s take on it: “The world needs a two-week time out.” Looks like I picked the right month to sew a bunch of stretchy pants.
2. This also made me feel better (yes it’s from Twitter whoops I was back on):
i think the impulse for many people is to look at things closing down or events cancelling right now as a sign of doom, but for the most part i think it’s cause for optimism—someone in charge of something is taking this seriously, and doing what they can to limit interactions
— Amanda Mull (@amandamull) March 12, 2020
3. The most important question of all: Is It Safe to go to the Gym in the Midst of the Coronavirus Outbreak? (Short answer: yes if you and your household are healthy, be clean, avoid crowds.)
Whew. Hang in there, friends. We’re all in this together.
1. Oh hai! I didn’t mean to disappear for two days but my dad was teaching me how to lay tile and we started early. I learned how to cut cement board and plan a tile pattern and use a tile saw and tile scorer and put up thinset and set tile. Learning!
2. If you’ve ever read a food blog, this is hilarious: If You Want My Blueberry Muffin Recipe, You Must Read This Crazy-Long Preamble First.
3. Anxiety makes me go immediately to the worst-case scenario of, well, everything. So sometimes I need to remember this:
1. Yesterday’s Pre-Raphaelite cover reminded me of one of my favorite pieces from when The Toast was publishing: Two Monks Invent The Pre-Raphaelite Brotherhood. “Big hair, no heart” is my 2020 mood.
2. Changing gears, there’s been a lot of talk in my friend groups about preparing for the spread of coronavirus. One group is pretty freaked out, the other not so much, and I was falling under the umbrella of “We’ll probably be fine, no need to stockpile things.” But this Scientific American article changed my mind (and offers specific, detailed advice on what “prepare” means):
We should prepare, not because we may feel personally at risk, but so that we can help lessen the risk for everyone. We should prepare not because we are facing a doomsday scenario out of our control, but because we can alter every aspect of this risk we face as a society.
That’s right, you should prepare because your neighbors need you to prepare—especially your elderly neighbors, your neighbors who work at hospitals, your neighbors with chronic illnesses, and your neighbors who may not have the means or the time to prepare because of lack of resources or time.
1. This is accurate:
2. This is helpful: How to Stop Freaking Out and Tackle Climate Change
2. I posted the essay”The Crane Wife” from The Paris Review a while back and just re-read it this week. It made me so proud of the work I’ve been doing on myself and in my relationship over the last 18 months. Acknowledging that you have needs–and articulating them–and respecting your partner’s needs–is so hard, but the alternative is this:
“The Crane Wife” is a story from Japanese folklore…In the story, there is a crane who tricks a man into thinking she is a woman so she can marry him. She loves him, but knows that he will not love her if she is a crane so she spends every night plucking out all of her feathers with her beak. She hopes that he will not see what she really is: a bird who must be cared for, a bird capable of flight, a creature, with creature needs. Every morning, the crane-wife is exhausted, but she is a woman again. To keep becoming a woman is so much self-erasing work. She never sleeps. She plucks out all her feathers, one by one.
Happy Lupercalia. Be honest with yourself and each other (and run through the street naked).
1. There’s been some good stuff on Instagram, like this from Notes From Your Therapist:
2. This is good, too, from You Look Like A Man:
(I DO want that, actually; I love being stronger in general but if we’re being honest I also love what lifting has done for my ass.)
3. This hybridizer lets you make your own mythical beastie.
1. This is the most accurate thing I’ve ever read:
..the industry’s practice of making employees work 100-hour weeks for months on end to finish a game in time for the preset delivery date, often without extra pay—a practice known as “crunch”—came under fire in discussions among workers, as did the rolling layoffs that come when companies staff up and shed jobs to fit cyclical production schedules.
Go for it, friends! You can’t scare me, etc.
2. Speaking of hair, I need to schedule a haircut in the next month or two. Should I get bangs? Is it time? This Man Repeller article says it might be:
Judging by how well the haircut turned out, I’ll be taking more risks in the future. I think this shag will be my gateway to loosening up in general. Looking back, I realize that I shouldn’t have been so nervous, and I wish I had chopped it off sooner.