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Friday Links

April 16, 2021 By Karen in Friday Unrelated Information No Comments

1. I’ve ordered and returned two different pairs of non-skinny jeans lately and I give up. If we ever return to the office, I’m doing this:

I’m going to deal with not knowing what kinds of jeans to wear by doing what I did the last time I felt this way: wear nothing but dresses for a decade.

โ€” laura olin (@lauraolin) April 12, 2021

 

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3. Wait for it.

 

Grief

April 15, 2021 By Karen in feelings No Comments

My mom would be 73 today. I took the day off. I’m going to fertilize and trim my houseplants and think about her (she loved to fertilize and prune).

I don’t have many words of my own today, but I’ve been sitting on a Cheryl Strayed newsletter–a reprint of an old Sear Sugar column–for a few weeks now. Every single one ofย  her newsletters destroy me but this one particularly, about living with loss and making a home in grief, didn’t leave a thing standing. It’s beautiful, though. If you have lost a loved one, read it. And know that I’m thinking about you.

 

Thirty years gone and my mother is always with me. Thirty years gone and I still ache for her every day. Thirty years gone and my sorrow has sweetened into gratitude. How lucky I am to have been her daughter. To still be. To feel her shimmering in my bones with every step. […]

Itโ€™s your life. The one you must make in the obliterated place thatโ€™s now your world, where everything you used to be is simultaneously erased and omnipresent […] It is impossible for you to go on as you were before, so you must go on as you never have.

You go on by doing the best you can. You go on by being generous. You go on by being true. You go on by offering comfort to others who canโ€™t go on. You go on by allowing the unbearable days to pass and allowing the pleasure in other days. You go on by finding a channel for your love and another for your rage.

The kindest and most meaningful thing anyone ever says to me is: your mother would be proud of you. Finding a way in my grief to become the woman who my mother raised me to be is the most important way I have honored my mother.

Deja Vu

April 14, 2021 By Karen in Uncategorized 2 Comments

Here I am again posting about how cops are bad and we shouldn’t have a system–racist from its inception–that allows for people with the literal power of life and death to make a goddamned traffic stop.

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Tuesday Project Roundup: Splashing Doc’s Underwear All Over The Internet

April 13, 2021 By Karen in sewing, Tuesday Project Roundup No Comments

Doc got some new Walbrook Boxer Briefs to replace the last of his RTW pairs and now we’re an “all homemade underwear” family. Which is a thing I just made up.

Please enjoy looking at his undies:

Both fabrics are cotton/Lycra from The Fabric Fairy and I used the cover stitch machine liberally. I didn’t get the stripes lined up very well at the front of the burgundy pair so I added some reverse stitching to help it look more intentional:

These are fast and only take a half yard of fabric and Doc says they’re comfortable. Handmade underwear for everyone!

Today’s The Day

April 12, 2021 By Karen in sewing No Comments

I get my first vaccine shot today and the thought of a near future where I can hug my family and shed the mental load of the last year is just…really great.

More importantly, I have something to wear to this event outside the house–I finished the quilt coat!

I was careful with the binding on the inside so it’s also REVERSIBLE:

I’ll get some “modeled” photos in the next couple of weeks but I didn’t want to keep anyone in suspense (lol). I think this wearable blanket will be a good way to ease back into the vaccinated world.

Friday Links

April 9, 2021 By Karen in Friday Unrelated Information No Comments

1. I’ve discovered Virginia Sole-Smith’s columns about fatphobia and diet culture and kids and have been learning a lot. I’ve never struggled with my weight and I started lifting to get stronger, not smaller, but…no one is immune to fatphobia or the pressure to look a certain way, no matter who (or how old) you are. She linked to this article about posting online about “losing the pandemic weight” and it’s just really eye opening and helpful.

2. So true, from the caption of this Kat Vellos post: “How are you?” can be a hard question to answer when a multitude of positive, exciting, hopeful AND scary, sad, disappointing things are *all* happening AT THE SAME TIME.

3. About to head into the weekend like this:

pic.twitter.com/6jH98hpTOQ

โ€” Koala ๐Ÿ–ค Commissions Open! (@koalaXCF) March 3, 2021

Spending My Time Looking At Things Online

April 8, 2021 By Karen in gram time No Comments

Here’s the latest:
Big mood, from my fav account

 

From cartoonist Tommy Siegel

 

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And finally, you ARE doing great, from artist Maybell Eequay

Lizard-Brain Fashion

April 7, 2021 By Karen in fashun No Comments

I’ve been thinking about what a post-vaccine world will look like for me–and by that, I mean I’m thinking about what to wear. I have no desire to be back in the office 5 days a week, but 3 days a week? Just think of the outfits!

But WHAT outfits? This tweet kind of summed it up:

i keep seeing people trying to predict what post-vax summer fashion is going to look like and the smart money is on โ€œentirely incoherentโ€. youโ€™re going to be wearing sweat pants and a beanie while sitting next to someone in a prom dress and another person in a hazmat suit

โ€” woke capital investment advisor machine (@golikehellmachi) March 22, 2021

Even before the pandemic, I would look at an outfit and think, “It’s a little much for my team/Target/a Tuesday” but once I’m back out in the world, no more of that! I recently found Frisky Gatos on Instagram and Reddit and her concept of “listen to ur lizard” is the best way to find your “personal style” going:

Stop trying to research and analyze oneself into style and instead just listen to YOURSELF โ€“ your most primitive brain โ€“ WHAT DOES IT WANT?

I’ve always liked what I’ve sewn and feel cool wearing it, but once I’m back out in the world, I’m not gonna tone it down anymore and put a sober blazer on top of one wild print. My lizard brain wants to wear ALL the prints and ALL the colors together and I’m just going to remind my more advanced brain parts of this:

I was embarrassed what people would think of me if I wore [what I really loved]. Iโ€™ve come to realize how flawed this thought process is because it assumes that anyone cares about me and what I am wearing. Letโ€™s be honest: no one thinks about me as much as I think about myself and everyone else is thinking about themselves all the time anyway, so who cares?

Give it a read, click to the links for examples, and listen to ur lizard!

(image from Frisky Gatos’ reddit post linked above)

Still Quilting

April 6, 2021 By Karen in sewing

Maybe eight hours later, I’d say I have 90% of the quilting done for my extremely labor intensive quilt coat. No, I’m still not to the point of actually sewing it up, but I got it in my head that I’d like to wear it to my first VACCINE APPOINTMENT this coming Monday. (I don’t know why, since I will have to take it off to actually get a shot, but it seems appropriate that I started this pandemic with a labor-intensive jacket and am ending it with the same.)

Will I get it done?ย  I don’t know! I have the fabric for the binding all picked out though, and the sewing should go pretty fast. Stay tuned.

Extremely Spring

April 5, 2021 By Karen in nature

Doc and I went to the arboretum that Mom liked so much to try to start a new tradition (holidays are so hard since she died and this holiday in particular always feels so empty). It was unseasonably warm and surprisingly uncrowded and just a nice balm for a hard day.

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