Monday night my friend give a fabulous talk on how to run a business, and the advice over and over was “get comfortable talking about money.” Get comfortable asking for what you are worth. Get comfortable asking for more.

I saw this interview with actress Ellen Pompeno–about getting to a $20 million paycheck every episode–and it’s nearly the same advice. She quotes/credits producer Shonda Rhimes as the one who first told her to ask for more. [Hey, Amber: You’re my Shonda!]

“As a woman, what I know is you can’t approach anything from a point of view of ‘I don’t deserve’ or ‘I’m not going to ask for because I don’t want other people to get upset,’ ” Rhimes says now. “And I know for a fact that when men go into these negotiations, they go in hard and ask for the world.”